Originally Posted by redpepper
I think its all about learning really. I think you hit the nail on the head with that. I think its important to take a look at relationships when they don't work out and learn. Then move on and chalk it all up to experience and hope that those involved will learn to.
It becomes about more when huge numbers of people jump to the defense of practices that are hurtful. And it becomes even more when the people who are hurt by such practices are continually silenced in poly communities and when poly communities tacitly condone such treatment. It's more common than one would expect.