Going into poly as a tit for tat situation usually does not end well. Meaning it is not fair to play with another persons emotions meaning getting involved with them when the only reason is because your wife is doing it you are going to do it too.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.