Originally Posted by Murasaki
Your original wordning did sound rigid, that's why I asked more questions. I didn't want to assume that what you were saying was a hard line, and not something that have room negotiation.
If no kids are present, would it not be a possibility for N to see if his other partner wanted to have a couple sleep over (at one home or the other) during the nights you are not available, and then he'd possibly being free one extra night while you are not working? To me this would be a plus. If I were N and it worked out with both my partners then I'd get an extra night with each of you.
He currently has option to see her 4 nights a week as it. We aren't concerned about hiding Anything from the kids. She often brings her kids here and sleeps over