Originally Posted by rolypoly
Poly in my life is turning out to be more of a capacity to develop a variety of relationships with varying intensity. What I'm wondering is how to go forth with this nature of mine without hurting others.
Well, the only secret I know to avoid/minimize hurt is honesty !
That's no guarantee but I know of nothing else to offer. There's no way I'm aware of to control someone else's thinking process and emotions.
If your various paramours understand going in that you physical and emotional availability is going to be spread out then they have to assume responsibility for their own handling of that. Or walk away.
Good luck. You seem like a kind, compassionate person. You can only do what YOU can do.