My husbands need to be a slave is intertwined into his identity. I have no urge to spend my day issuing demands and punishments upon a grown man who I would prefer to be my equal. He had a very abusive domineering childhood. He equates servitude with love. I do not. I find it to be creepy and frankly a royal poison in my ass. It has gotten worse as he gets older.
We live in Podunk Pennsylvania. There is no scene here. He has no outlet. He is from Chicago where there is a large healthy scene.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.