Originally Posted by PolyinPractice
If, on the other hand, what you're really feeling is jealousy, and the ONLY situation you feel left out in is when he is with someone who he feels affection for....well, then maybe poly isn't for you and you need to find someone who can do what you need to be happy.
That might make sense if the OP hadn't already said she had been fine until a specific event-which is well documented to cause these problems for mono people and single people frequently enough to be listed as "things to watch for" in people with the disease.
Since there is an obvious moment when the emotional problem started, and that moment has a clearly defined different (additional) variable;
It makes sense to consider the new variable as a potential cause.
Since that variable has been documented to cause these emotional issues in so many people in varying relationship styles-it continues to make sense to focus on resolving the emotions as being caused by that variable and simply affecting the other variable (the relationship comfort).