Reading does not equal knowing (wow that's been coming up a lot this week).
Also-rushing doesn't make it work out better. Usually the other way around.
My bf has been a GOOD close friend for 17 years. He has supported me in raising my children for that whole time (the oldest is 18) and has put in his time proving his value to my life and willingness to not try to replace my husband.
AND STILL we have plenty of issues.
Heck no on the moving 'em in so fast. And sure as hell not moving someone in with my babies who I've never met face to face and spent enough REAL LIFE time with to ensure my babies TRUE safety...
"Love As Thou Wilt"