Steve I am going to be blunt.... Polyamory has been one of the hardest things ever on my marriage and Butch and I have been through hell and back together.
We had a pretty solid marriage. Butch knew my history of serial monogamy before me. When I got the 7, in my case 9 year itch, he bluntly brought up Polyamory. He had never had a partner outside our marriage. Only I have.
Poly has magnified hell shown a spot light on the flaws in our marriage. Poly is not always a bonding agent Most of the time it is not. I am sure Butch wishes I wasn't this way. I know Murf wishes I wasn't. Heck this this is a lot of work. I have two other peoples wants to consider. Not enough hours of the day. Kids to think of on top of that.
Poly isn't all fun times.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.