Our girlfriend is a submissive and my husband is a budding dom. It's been hard for me to accept that this is a part of his life that I don't share--I have a desire to be all things to him. It's also been hard to see him hurting her, even knowing that this is what she wants, so I have a limited involvement. (I did once interfere with a scene trying to protect her.)
I love them both, and I want them to be happy and get their needs met, but I just don't get it, and sometimes that makes it hard to be the "vanilla" partner. I feel like I don't fit.
ETA: Okay, so I think this thread is for various experiences with BDSM, and I thought that my post was in keeping, but now I'm nervous. If it isn't, I'll delete.
Last edited by Lemondrop; 03-02-2010 at 10:37 PM.