Why do you find it so hard to believe that people like myself do not fall in (romantic) love with more than one person at the same time?
I wish people would stop conflating "wiring" (or "how I love others") with "preferred relationship style" (which can be based on social constructs). It's not just you, but it makes it quite aggravating to feel like I have to defend myself against a belief that I'm something I'm not. I'm *in* a Poly relationship. I'm already (evidently) thumbing my nose at convention. But I don't love that way.
Dammit... I fell for the necropost. But it's still, I suppose, a valid discussion. It's a discussion I need to have everytime someone tells me that monogamy is such an oppressive construct, when the word "monogamy" is used to encompass two different things entirely.
Mono. Divorced, two kids, two cats, one house with many projects.
Chops (previously 'P'):
My partner of ~3 years. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Xena (previously M1):
Poly. In relationships with Chops and Noa, and dating others.
Noa (previously AG):
Married, Poly. In relationships with Chops and Xena (individually).
My navel-gazing blog thread:
A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")
Last edited by YouAreHere; 09-23-2013 at 03:14 PM.
Reason: Added the "romantic" to head the "but you love your children and friends!" retort off at the pass