Originally Posted by keiokaki
but i explained to him that this isn't even about sex
Sorry, but I'm a little confused by this statement.
If taking a new relationship to the sexual level is not important then why is this an issue? Do you think he would be concerned if you had a deep non-sexual relationship? Monogamous couples can have deep outside friendships.
I agree polyamory is not all about sex
, but polyamorous relationships involve sexual intimacy
Seeing how this is not about sex, what do you really want from these new relations and why would he object if you simply said "I won't have sex"?