Right now, it seems like you're choosing between a real situation and a hypothetical situation.
In other words, if you happen to meet some other woman by chance (I don't suggest going out and actively looking for her in your present situation), then it might be more appropriate to revisit the issue. Your partner won't likely be any more keen on the idea than she is now, in fact probably less so when the "threat" becomes more "real." It might be a bit selfish, and under no circumstances should you pursue any type of romantic or sexual relationship with such a woman until you have the go-ahead from your partner (that's called cheating), but then at least you'll be choosing between two real situations.
I don't need labels to define me. They're sticky and I hate the glue they leave behind.
Last edited by SchrodingersCat; 03-03-2010 at 05:53 AM.
Reason: changed "wife" to "partner"