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Old 09-19-2013, 04:41 AM
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Yeah, after reading your posts more closely, I agree with WH. Romantic feelings developing? She wants to know "what went wrong?" Egad. This wasn't a relationship! This was a 45-minute romp in the sack with a stranger who now doesn't want to be bothered anymore. Face it. He's done. Why be angry when you didn't want emotions involved and he obviously didn't, either. She set herself up to just get fucked, so why all the melodrama? You both need to start seeing things more clearly and get a grip on reality. She needs to stop bugging him. Sorry to have been so blunt, but it's time to move on! I think you both need to re-asses what kind of non-monogamy you are going to pursue and do some research beforehand, connect with experienced people, and go about it with more forethought and care.
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