It seems like what she wants out of the relationship is pretty clear, and that you aren't going to have the same kind of relationship you did before again.
It sounds to me like you are hurting, because you were made to feel like your relationship is no longer as important to her as you would like it to be. I'm sorry to hear that it worked out like that *hug*
Long distance relationships can be difficult even for mono couples, and often end up being deal breakers. I don't think there is anything you can do but decide if this new relationship model is something that you are willing to participate in. There is no "correct" answer, because it's about what meets your needs.
Me - Female, heteroflexable, 23
N - My fiancee - Male, straight, 24
A - My boyfriend - Male, straight, 23