To me, in my experience dealing with MANY people open to discussing such things I've found this.
1> There have been people abused
2> There are people who WANT to feel abused - but weren't.
3> There are people who WERE abused but never realized it - no impact until someone put a light on it.
4> There were people who weren't abused, but maybe should have been (depending on your definition of 'abuse')
It's all really a convoluted mess, tangled up in religion, societies' rules about sexual conduct, mass media etc etc etc.
Whenever I get brought into such discussions I try to ask.......
How would it have been viewed (whatever the claim) in 5000 BC ?
Something like that.