Originally Posted by nycindie
It sounds like you wish she would've asked you for permission. However, it seems she was simply taking charge of her life.
Did she really put it as an ultimatum or was it more like, "This is what I want to do and I hope you can deal with it." ? The way you put it sounds so over-the-top dramatic. But I empathize with your broken hearts - the hurt really sucks.
I don't remember her exact words but what came across was an ultimatum. Was she taking control of her life - yes. Was it out of the blue and shocking -yes. Did we react poorly - also yes.
I never wanted her to feel like she needs my permission for anything. She is an adult and doesn't need me (or anyone) to control her. I just wished we talked about it in a different way