sex is fun
Well - I slept with most of my "list" by the time I was 20. I felt happy, healthy, and confident. I think I had the dude mentality at that time - meaning - I would never date seriously, never got emotionally attached, and was always only in it for the fun. Once the fun wore off, I was off to the next person.
There is a part of me that wants some of that back. I am not sure how to get it back - but I liked non-attachment sex. I also like sex when love is involved. I am not sure if I have changed to the point that I won't be able to get back into that head space again. A couple of bad situations have caused me to become more cautious, even though they are not related at all to casual sex. And, I am busy with my PhD so, time is precious.
Anyhow, my point is that casual sex was never the product of low self esteem, or negativity. I did it because sex is fun, and just for that. I was safe (WAY SAFER NOW!!) and confident, happy, and healthy.
just my 2 cents.