Thanks, all, for sharing! There's so much to consider legally in making this work.
I'm also curious to hear about non-legal methods of making a situation like mine work. K and Z and I talk often about making sure Z feels included and supported, regardless of legal status. (As a random example, Z and I are monogamous shower buddies!)
I'm curious to hear how everyone else handles their dynamics.
"I was thorough when I looked for you, and I feel justified lying in your arms." - Chasing Amy