Wow, this is great stuff!
It's kind of like these are things I already know and understand, but somehow I got a little lost along the way - confused. My picture of things got muddled.
It'll be nice to read this forum and see the suggestions and stories people offer regarding their successful poly relationships
Thank you for sharing!
PS: I agree that when it comes to someone else's teen, it's delicate. If the teen was an adult or you never showed interest in learning a way to work with this teen to get past the point of needing to relay through your husband it would be different. I think you've done good