Originally Posted by InsaneMystic
I have the rare luxury of it being completely irrelevant to my life, seeing as fluid bonding is forever off the table with me to start with.
And I say "luxury" for one reason only: no need to meddle in what I see as a partner's private life. Their sex life, their STD risk, their business - not mine. It allows me to set a clearer boundary than would be possible if there were a chance of getting infected myself... I know I'd struggle with the feeling of being meddling/nosy if I had to weigh up their privacy versus my bodily health; this way, I can leave their privacy completely untouched.
No sex is risk-free -- sure you may use barriers, but what it a condom slips or breaks? And even with perfect barrier use, there is a not-insignificant chance of getting infected with HPV and HSV. I'm not saying your system isn't the right one for you, I'm just saying that to call a partner's status irrelevant because there's no chance of a risk is inaccurate.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.