Originally Posted by Marcus
You want a sex calendar? That sounds romantic
Honestly, get used to being pissed if she is taking on a new lover. Consider for a second how likely it is that you would want to have sex with someone you are hot and bothered for, all tied up in puppy love... pretty likely, right? Would you even want to have sex with them to a higher degree than this person you've been shagging 3-4 times per week for the past X years?
The answer is, hell yes!! That is one of the joys of polyamory, you get to enjoy the unbridled pleasures of new love while still having the love for the person you had before. It's a best of both worlds sort of scenario.
It *does* have the drawback of leaving your other partner perhaps less satisfied than they would prefer... at least for a period of time. But hey, that's what masturbation and other lovers are for!
none of it sounds like anything that would work for any sort of NRE remedy, but that's beside the point, debates and discussions are great however it often seems a little aggressive to always be in full debate mood (asking for a deeper explanation of criticism when not seeking clarity but rather to discount what seemed fairly clear)
I have no problem with different opinions or even opposite opinions, I might be off base or oversensitive but just throwing my two cents in because when people seek advice for problems with "opening up" my philosophy is such that it is not the best time to make sure they are "tough enough" emotionally