Everyone is right, this is not for everyone. If you really do want to work through this, you need to work on yourself first. Jealousy is usually rooted in feelings in the jealous person.
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Have you gotten any personal counseling for yourself? That is a really important step from moving on from abuse and regaining your personal identity and power back. Maybe that would be a good first step. Check out the local community in your area for counselors that are more affordable.