Originally Posted by bookbug
I am still reading the thread, but if your initial fear was that through sharing you *might* see less of her, it seems that now you have assured it. In essence you gave her an ultimatum. Most people do not respond kindly to such behavior. And now you are heartbroken because you forced her to choose.
I am sincerely sorry you and your wife are so hurt. I imagine your gf is too.
But wouldn't it be worse to lie to her and ourselves and pretend that we are happy she is off seeing another.
Like I said before, maybe we aren't 100% poly (whatever that means) I don't know if she is hurt or not and this isn't the ending my wife and I wanted but we had to be honest