Originally Posted by Natja
You and several thousand others, it is a pretty futile hunt to be honest, you had the third, most of those couples would kill for that opportunity but because not all boxes were ticked you threw something that could have been good and long lasting away (for all you know this other guy may not have lasted) what you have now is the benefit of experience, you have seen exactly how you both can ruin this type of relationship, now you have the opportunity to start anew with that experience, you can go forward with a better grasp of polyamory or you can fall back to fantasyland looking for your new Golden Unicorn, the choice is yours.
Blunt but honest. Thank you
I don't know if we can do it (or if we want to) but moving forward at least I have an idea from the other view point