Originally Posted by gorgeouskitten
Bingo. One thing i dislike in poly is when people have rules over someone else having multiple partners when you yourself do. im not immune to it, check out my thread "dating and committment among secondaries"
I just had moments of doubt over my boyfriend having others, there are some good responses on there to me that you may find helpful.
If you and your wife want polyfidelity with a third, it is probably unlikely.
I understand what you are saying but I also see it that she does have multiple partners in a way, both me and my wife. I fully understand that we may be very unfair in this and I 'm not looking for approval. Just reading your responses and writing out how I feel has been very helpful