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Old 02-22-2010, 07:58 PM
polytriad polytriad is offline
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Originally Posted by Ceoli View Post
High quality communication can easily solve this issue. I still pretty firmly believe that holding back genuine feelings makes relationships more difficult. The idea is that you can share your feelings without attaching expectations to them. There's a big difference.
If my feelings are being expressed doesn't it go without saying that I want things to change? Just expressing how I feel will not solve the issue.


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Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG View Post
This is quite profound. I sometimes hold back because I assume my feelings are asking for change that I don't really want. Maybe being very specific in the lack of expectation is a way to be heard without looking like you are asking for something from your partner/partners.

This is a freeing concept
This is how I am feeling now. So I bite my words and I dont express myself the way I would like to. the truth is that you might not have expectations but you expect change one way or another otherwise you wouldnt bring it up.
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