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Old 09-06-2013, 03:33 AM
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Originally Posted by gorgeouskitten View Post
I guess i dont get why HE needs to date, what need is he looking for? is there something me or wife isnt doing? Or am I gonig against my own poly nature by questioning someones need for multiple partners? those are rhetorical questions.
Why does anyone else do anything else? Focusing on why someone else does what they do can be a futile endeavor and counterproductive to the health of a relationship.

When I find myself obsessing and trying to figure out and control someone else's thoughts, beliefs, decisions, behaviors etc. it is usually a sign that I need to start focusing on myself again.

Back to square one.
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