I'm a lurker, and new poster just figuring out where I fit in. But, this..your post....I can almost feel the loveliness. I feel warm and happy for you. I can relate to the unexpected falling in love as that is what happened to dh and I...and relate to feeling such love and happiness knowing that they are happy pursuing something else wonderful in their lives.
I'm, ignorantly, unaware of what the whole "v" thing that is mentioned is about. I am not used to the terminology, lol. Not sure why people would hate on them a bit haha but I'm new to finding out there are actual terms for how we love, or the dynamic that we wish for.