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Old 09-06-2013, 01:29 AM
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Originally Posted by gorgeouskitten View Post
I guess i dont get why HE needs to date, what need is he looking for? is there something me or wife isnt doing? Or am I gonig against my own poly nature by questioning someones need for multiple partners? those are rhetorical questions.
I don't understand why you feel the need to figure this out, nor that there should be any reason other than "he wants to." Maybe he feels he's got a lot of love to give, maybe he feels that there are so many fabulous women in the world that he shouldn't limit himself if another one comes along, maybe he's just a horndog - what does it have to do with you? Is it okay for you to date more if you want, but he can't even be open to it? Does he question why you need to be with him in addition to your husband? Is he supposed to kiss the ground where you stand and express the utmost gratitude that you came into his life because now he can stop looking? It all sounds super insecure to me, hon. I think you would do well to keep looking at that.
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