Originally Posted by Dagferi
My husband is a sub.. I do not get his mindset what so ever. His perception is totally different than mine.
PT (IVs long distance beau) and his wife were involved in D/s dynamics but apparently are no longer. Whenever I am involved in conversations with IV about how they work it often degenerates into a "but I don't know, because there is such a funky power exchange history that I don't get". IV and I generally just have to shrug and move on to a new topic.
Independence and power exchange are at opposite ends of the spectrum of relating.