As with Marcus-I didn't realize this was a D/s dynamic (actually, I may have at some point-but forgotten because it seems like I remember reading that at some point-but not recently).
At any rate-a D/s dynamic has a WHOLE other set of responsibilities involved that complicate the whole situation.
I won't go into that here-because you state that you've stepped back from it.
But-I am a switch. I am a submissive in one relationship and I am Master to a slave in the other. So if you want to talk about that at any point in the future-it's fine to pm me. I do support your choice to step back-the ramifications of the relationship situation do not sound like they support the option of any sort of healthy D/s dynamic.
"Love As Thou Wilt"