In your polyship, do they set the tone/terms and you comply? Or is this supposed to be a collaborative thing? I'm not sure how it works in your polyshipping. Could you please clarify that?
Because you don't really seem to need help defining "vanilla." You seem to need help/support enduring the waiting time.
You could spend the waiting time articulating and defining your OWN boundaries and what YOU consider "vanilla" and what your own wants, needs and limits are. For YOURSELF.
While you wait for each of them to define each of theirs so you can then assess if you can get your wants/needs met here or not and things line up or not.
Just a thought...
Last edited by GalaGirl; 09-03-2013 at 03:07 AM.