Originally Posted by polywannacrackeryo
I'm in a V with a married couple, and all of us are new to poly. I've been reading "The Ethical Slut", and it's incredible. It's really helping me to alleviate some of my fears and insecurities. Today, while at the bookstore, I found a copy of "Open", by Jenny Block, which is written from the perspective of the married woman in a V. I bought it, thinking it would be perfect for my girlfriend. But I'm now wondering... is it presumptuous of me to think she may want/need to read this book, that is technically categorized as "self-help"?
There is no way for us to know that. My wife and gf love books like that, don't view them as self help and just simply for outside reference. They wouldn't think I was trying to "help" them.
I know others who would make that assumption.
Only you can answer this question imo.