She is an adult... stop babying her. Firmly tell her what you think and feel.
She is being self centered and selfish.
If she is that emotionally broken you are going to have to decide if this dynamic of having to cater to her whims is something you are willing to deal with and bow to.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.