Seems like something they could discuss honestly without all the game playing.
I understand your desire to step back, given that whatever occurs in their relationship is likely to affect yours. Seems a reasonable safety measure.
I notice in your signature that your metamour has many partners while your partner has his wife and you. It made me wonder if he is happily poly or is this something he did for his wife?
Last edited by bookbug; 09-01-2013 at 05:29 PM.