Clarification... I asked him if there was any truth to my perception that by moving without taking her into consideration or discussing first, that as she would be unlikely to follow him, he would then be guilt free as she would be the one to verbally call an end their relationship.
His response was that he guesses he really wants to know if she actually wants to be with him.
Me - self defined as monogamish: currently physically monoganous, emotionally poly
Sunshine - my committed partner, poly, married to S
S - my metamour, poly, married to Sunshine, multiple partners