Vexxed, it's true, I do notice and I'm aware of the differences and similarities of my partners. How can I not if I've truly gotten to know them?
The difference I'm seeing for myself is that I revel in the differences. I have no desire for my boyfriend to be exactly like my husband. I enjoy the differences...probably more than I enjoy their similarities.
I choose to be with both. Because of who they are. Period. They each add something special to my life.