....and yeah, well if he feels he's mono than he's got to live up to his "swearing" he doesn't need it from you.
I wouldn't want sexy times/touch from him either if he kept trying to push limits. If he needs it and he's mono.... time to find someone sexually compatible.
OH!! but he doesn't like the whole dating thing! He's not alone in that but unless he gets his act together ironically that's where he'll be ANYWAY!!!