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Old 08-31-2013, 02:04 PM
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The general you, as in "one". I see this all the time, people who try to encourage others not to have expectations of our partners or friends etc, supposedly because the idea of expecting other people to attempt to meet your needs is so wrong and it's usually because they've been badly let down in the past and now feel so worthless, that they no longer make themselves vulnerable to anyone letting them down again. If someone cheats on them, they just say well, i shouldn't have expected them to keep the agreement we made, that kind of thing. Sadly, I think that's why some people are poly, not because it really resonates with them, but because although they would prefer monogamous relationships, their self esteem tells them that nobody would commit to them and them alone so they drift somewhere that doesn't have that expectation for completely the wrong reasons.
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