We started with a disaster.
It took a lot of work, but we made it haPpen.
Like your wife-i fell in love with another man.
I had an affair. We filed for divorce (just now celebrated 14 yrs married in July).
He was jealous, angry etc (good reasons).
We now all live together.
Lots of drama to get we are. But life is good for all of us now.
Hubby tried the "get a gf so i wont be jealous". It doesnt work. Jealousy has to be dealt with from within. Lots of info aboit it here.
"Love As Thou Wilt"