Originally Posted by london
When you have been taught that you are not worth committing to, or honouring the agreements one has made with you, or fulfilling the role that one benefits from in your life (ie you give them girlfriend privileges, they treat you like a fuck buddy), you shun anything that prompts you to have an expectation of the people in your life. That way, they can never let you down. By shun, I don't mean simply opt not to employ a particular philosophy in your life, I mean belittle and dismiss that philosophy because it poses such a threat to revealing your true insecurities.
Tl;dr - when you are continually treated like shit, you utilise techniques that allow you to quietly bury your hand in the sand and ignore it rather than find the mental strength to impose boundaries and standards for your partner(s) to adhere to.
Who are you addressing this post to? You are using the word "you" a lot. Do you mean 1- someone in particular- if so, you must really know them well. 2-people in general (as in we humans tend to....) 3- yourself.
The key to life is in being fully engaged and peacefully detached simultaneously and authentically in each moment.
Last edited by idealist; 08-29-2013 at 03:26 AM.