Originally Posted by YouAreHere
Real quick question, since I should be wrapping up at work...
I realize you admitted to being snarky here, but what's wrong with him reaping the benefits of your happiness? I've seen that elsewhere described as one of the benefits of poly - that the positive energy from one relationship can benefit another.
If something that triggers a lot of negativity in him can bring him something positive as well, I wonder if that would help temper the negativity a bit.
Yes, but how is that fair to BF? My feelings around this issue also include the fact that he is NOT reaping the benefits of this. It just feels icky to me. Maybe I need to explore the "why" of that more.