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Old 08-28-2013, 01:56 AM
willowstar willowstar is offline
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Upstate NY
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Originally Posted by YouAreHere View Post
Real quick question, since I should be wrapping up at work...

I realize you admitted to being snarky here, but what's wrong with him reaping the benefits of your happiness? I've seen that elsewhere described as one of the benefits of poly - that the positive energy from one relationship can benefit another.

If something that triggers a lot of negativity in him can bring him something positive as well, I wonder if that would help temper the negativity a bit.
Yes, but how is that fair to BF? My feelings around this issue also include the fact that he is NOT reaping the benefits of this. It just feels icky to me. Maybe I need to explore the "why" of that more.
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming... ~ Dori

Willow ~ 44yo bi woman, married to Bear (formerly known as TB) for 18 years
Bear-Maybe poly/maybe mono straight man, still feeling it out
Armadillo (formerly known as BF) - currently out of the picture. Depression is evil...
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