My boyfriend, nudge, recently joined this forum and spotted me so we had the discussion (right after i said ,Dont read my old posts!! ha) that he would post what we wanted to, but tell the otehr not to read it if it was inflamatory and if that person chose to do so anyone, that was on them.
I also write a poly article for a website that both my partners read, though BF has agreed not to read it if i write about the strain between his wife and i and i think it mgiht upset him (though i dont think i'd right anything inflammatory anyway)
the thing with the internet is, someone can always find out its you. if i find my thoughts/questions etc are VERY private of possible to cause hurt, i dont share them publicly.
keep on keeping on