One persons life may not work for you.
My way of life, separate but equal relationships, works for me but not for others.
Read a lot.. Take part of the forums. Check and see if there are local groups. Do what works for you.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.