Hello there! I'm from Idaho too and new here as well. I've had feelings for others throughout my 17 years of marriage and it took my husband to recognize this in me. Once that happened I then pointed out he had done this himself last winter with his girlfriend (but she wasn't for him staying with me). So viola, we both realize we'd been ignoring who we are for many, many years. I am bi as well. I have not had a relationship with another women but if I ever do, my husband's love for me won't stop and neither will mine for him. And no, this is not just dumb. It's who you are and what your concerns are. Enjoy the forum, post questions, search for key terms and you'll find your answers.
I'm hoping you're close by. It'd be nice to have a friend in the area with similar interests.