Originally Posted by evad
I just put in another thread, but my journey to overcome this was realizing it wasn't a competition.
T is with me because she wants to be with me. I don't have to do anything better or more often than other men in her life. I just have to be me. That's what attracted her in the first place, and that's what keeps her involved.
I try to be supportive of her other relationships, but there are times when I voice my concerns. I do preface it with, "I understand that I might be biased here, and it's completely your decision, but I'm concerned about X." That only occurs when she's stressed out though. If she seems happy, I don't comment other than to be glad her other men are making her happy.
So there's no inherent jealousy to be had for her physical relations with other men? Is that just how it always was for you, or was it learned?