That's basically what she indicated in a conversation we recently had.
"It is really important to me that you respect me enough to know I'm keeping myself safe in these situations, and that I'm smart enough to know when a man is being respectful or not of me."
At the time of the conversation, I was still fairly emotional regarding the whole thing. It isn't that I don't trust her, but rather that it is the act itself that I find disrespectful, even if it is the act of two consenting adults.
I said something along the lines of "Such degradation, I feel like it is for US to share, for people who love each other enough to hurt each other a little bit and be able to smile at the end and now think of each other any differently".
Whether or not this is a valid thought process, I'm still working on.