I recently had a 95% match guy send me a couple of nice messages. He wasn't my type, physically, I wasn't attracted. But since he was nice, I said hi to be polite.
He told me he isn't quite poly but has had experience being a swinger and open. He didn't sound creepy, until he told me he "can't perform" wearing a condom, and was I fine with that? He could bring me his clean test results and assured me he is selective about his partners.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)