Hello, all! I'm very new (as in 3 minutes) to the site and, for right now, am looking for advice.
I've always found it very hard to remain monogamous in previous relationships. It has not been for lack of love in the relationship; it's the fact that I get bored very easily. I have not and will not ever cheat on a partner and I have beaten myself up and blamed myself for sabotaging any relationship; thinking it was completely my fault for its demise. It has not been easy and I'm still not sure what will bring me happiness.
My current predicament:
I have a pair of VERY close friends who are married to each other. I can genuinely say I love both of them with all my heart. We have gone on vacations together as well as naming me the godmother of their son. A little over a year ago I had a sexual encounter with my female friend. This has happened maybe 3 other times since then. All followed by: "PLEASE don't tell my husband!" I'm not a fan of lying, but that is something he should hear from his wife, not me. Recently her husband has confessed to having deep feelings, emotional and sexual, towards me, followed by: "PLEASE don't tell my wife!"
As I said, I deeply care for both of them and they both have made clear how they feel about me. I was wondering if anyone had any advice about how to, or even if, I should approach the both of them about polyamory. I really don't want to freak them out with talk that they are not comfortable with. Please help! My head is spinning!
Thank you all!