See for me, I have a broad spectrum of things I like to do when it comes to sexual things. I certainly don't expect any partner of mine to want to do all of them. It's definitely not an all-or-nothing thing.
To me, we are compatible when there are enough things that we have in common to make it interesting and to fulfill that feeling of intimacy and fun that represents sexuality for me.
"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb